In reflecting on the past year and looking ahead to 2016, I’m going to experiment with this idea of writing 1-2 sentences each day to summarize how the day went or something I ruminated on during the day. This is in part inspired by this Thought Catalog article and also by my need to stay disciplined with writing consistently.
1- It truly is the simple things in life that make me the happiest. It’s watching the sun set from the back of a fuzzy horse, the warm embrace of my husband (still feels so strange to use that term!) when we’re cuddling, or the look of pure, unfiltered joy in our dogs’ eyes from the moment we wake until it’s time for sleep.
2- We’ve been considering a cross-country move to a city we’ve never visited that would demand a lot of time, energy, and resources. While I am excited by the prospect of adventure and new landscapes, not-so-deep down I also know that it doesn’t really matter whether it pans out. I’m happy wherever I’m with you.
3- Two of the hardest things are understanding when to ask for help and accepting that it’s okay to open up to people and not bottle everything up inside. If there was a Venn diagram depicting the things that I share with the world and the things I keep private, the overlap at the center would be almost nonexistent.
4- Do something that scares you. Your comfort zone is actually not all that comfortable and can lead to a lot of dissatisfaction.
5- Dog training classes are hard. He who wields the tastiest treats wields the power.
6- I’m finding that as I get older, it’s easier and easier to let stuff roll off my back. I struggle with taking things too personally, because I care intensely and am an emotional person. Also, I highly recommend taking the Myers-Briggs personality type test and doing some exploratory reading. This INFP has found it extremely insightful.
7- It’s difficult to strike a balance between being financially responsible and choosing to pursue the avenues in life that fulfill you emotionally and spiritually. Sometimes those pursuits fall on the same path, but all too often they don’t.
8- It does bother me when people make promises they can’t keep. I would rather be promised nothing and then be gleefully caught off guard with a wondrous surprise than be filled with ever-increasing expectations that deflate at a moment’s notice.
9- Focus on quality vs. quantity when improving your happiness. If we’re talking food, that means a handmade whiskey chocolate sea salt caramel milkshake over a box of Kraft mac & cheese.
10- Making budgets is not sexy in any way, but I find the process extremely calming and almost therapeutic. Were I a more outgoing personality, I think I would be a financial advisor. What will you be when you grow up?
11- Mondays are tricky. Once Sunday rolls around, you’re dreading the start of the new week. But once it’s arrived and there’s no escaping, there’s this rush of emotion that floods your brain with the knowledge that there is a whole week of possibilities lying ahead of you.
12- Pop country music, movies with manufactured perfect endings, and fast food are all junk strategically designed to make you feel a cheap sort of happiness. But it’s the struggle and imperfections that make life worth living and help you feel alive. If we start stripping ourselves of that experience, I don’t think we’ll be building an innovative, understanding society anymore.